The Messy Middle: Embracing the Uncertainty in Career Changes

If you’ve ever made a bold career move, you’ve probably found yourself in what I refer to as “the messy middle”. It’s that sometimes uncomfortable and awkward space between where you were and where you’re trying to go. You’ve left the familiar, and you’re not quite where you want to be yet. Sound familiar? Even if you’re just contemplating a career change or even actively planning one, this is also for you. That weird middle place will be a big part of your new reality.

I call it “messy” for a reason. It’s filled with self-doubt, fear, and moments where you wonder if you’ve made a huge mistake. But here’s the thing: the messy middle isn’t the problem—it’s your feelings about being there. Believe me, when you decide to embrace the mess, you open up a whole lot of opportunities for yourself.

Why the Messy Middle Feels So Hard

Uncertainty triggers our natural fight-or-flight response. It’s the brain’s way of saying, “This feels risky! Let’s go back to safety!” But career growth, by its very nature, means that we need to step outside of our comfort zone. You decided to go for this change at some point, so now you need to see it through. The messy middle is absolute proof that you’re evolving and growing, even when it feels anything but comfortable.

How to Navigate the Messy Middle

Sometimes, the middle of the journey is just as important as the destination—when the pieces don't quite fit, but you're still figuring it out

So, how do you not just survive but thrive in this space? It starts with a fresh perspective. Here are three easy ways to embrace the messy middle and keep moving forward toward your career goals;

• Reframe Uncertainty as Growth
  Instead of focusing on the discomfort, try asking yourself:

  • What am I learning from this experience?

  • How is this preparing me for what’s next?
    Shifting your perspective from fear to curiosity can make uncertainty feel like an opportunity instead of a roadblock.

• Focus on One Small Step at a Time
  It’s easy to get really overwhelmed thinking about the big picture and the future, especially when the destination feels so far away. Instead, focus on the next small step. Maybe it’s updating your LinkedIn profile, reaching out to a trusted colleague in your network, or spending 10 minutes brainstorming ideas for your new role. Each step builds momentum.

• Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
  The messy middle is not about getting everything right. It’s about showing up, even when you feel unsure. Celebrate every bit of progress—whether it’s finishing a course, landing an interview, or even just getting through a tough day. Progress is what matters, not perfection.

Remember: The Middle Is Temporary

Here’s the good news and the bottom line: no one stays in the messy middle forever. It’s a temporary but necessary phase that leads to something new and to self-growth. The discomfort you feel now is the price of that growth, and it’s 100 percent worth it. Every single step you take during this phase of uncertainty brings you closer to the career and life you’re dreaming of. It is actually through the struggle out of the mess that you will find your way forward!

So, the next time you’re tempted to doubt your decision or turn back, remind yourself this: the messy middle is proof that you’re on your way to something bigger and better. Dig in, trust the process, and embrace the mess. Keep moving forward.

You’ve got this!